Why is there so much BAD advice?

In my first couple years trying to quit porn, I did some ridiculous shit...

In case you're not familiar with the lore:

When I decided in 2018 that I needed to quit porn and heal my brain, I had no idea where to begin... but nonetheless, understanding the gravity of the way it was literally physically damaging my brain (a fact which I'll share more about in another email) and holding me back from the kind of progress I wanted to be making, I made quitting my #1 goal.

Because I understood something simple:

That quitting porn and healing my brain would be like creating a rising tide in a harbor.

Every boat... every part of my lifestyle that I cared about... would end up rising as the waterline rose.

But I did a lot of things that didn't work.

I outsourced my self-control to web blockers, instead of learning how to manage myself effectively.

I did pushups every time I had an urge, and then would often still relapse after.

I kept a belt on extremely tightly to uhh.. restrict myself. 🤣

I had accountability partners, but they were either struggling with the problem too or didn't struggle with it the same way I did and in either case were not equipped to actually help me with it.

I'd work on finding sneaky ways around the blockers.

I even had a web blocker that would send notifications to my accountability partners when porn appeared on my screen, so I'd work on finding ways to subtly view porn without it alerting them... flipping back and forth between whatever app I was in, and the reporting/accountability app, to see if I'd been caught. If I hadn't, I'd carry on with my shameful behavior. If I had been caught... well, I'd still carry on, but try to be sneakier.

Turns out, none of that shit worked.

Most of the common advice around quitting porn ain't actually very good advice, and some of it even works against you long-term.

To quit for good 5 years ago took something deeper.

Through years of study, and testing many different techniques and ideas, I created something that's completely different from conventional advice.

A process I've dubbed the Magnetic Man Method.

So-named because it's a process that goes down to the root of the problem, fixes it there, and naturally results in a man becoming... well, rather magnetic, to the kind of results and intimacy he most deeply desires.

There are a few different ways we achieve this:

By working on developing deep, iron-clad self-control:

Not using web-blockers, but rather installing a "blocker" in your mind that nothing can get past. Using a combination of simple brain-training techniques that literally rewire your neurology to respond consciously and effectively to every urge you ever experience. Identifying your unmet needs and desires:

Working on fulfilling those in healthy ways so that you feel more satisfied with your day-to-day lifestyle and therefore don't want to escape anymore. Breaking the "escapism loop":

Your brain has been trained for years to use porn, or other vices, as coping mechanisms for the stressors of life... and we'll be installing a healthier loop that'll stick with you for the rest of your years instead. Addressing any other hidden factors that could be contributing to compulsive sexuality.

Which is systems-thinking.

As in, we aren't just addressing individual symptoms... we recognize that a human being is a complex network of interconnected systems, and that often there are connections between one type of behavior and another type of behavior that can be hard to see if you don't know what to look for.

Net result?

We treat the entire person.

The entire lifestyle.

And customize the process every step of the way.

Frankly, it's an airtight plan. Follow simple instructions and lean on my guidance and you'll find it naturally results in the removal of pornography from not just your lifestyle but also your mind too... so you can finally stop thinking about it, and just move on.

Which is why I'm so comfortable guaranteeing the outcome.

But with my business priorities shifting, I can't keep on offering unrestricted access to my calendar.

Which is why I'm closing it in just 3 days.

And accepting a maximum of 3 more guys as clients.

Don't know when spots will open up again.

But I wouldn't wait to find out when you've already been struggling long enough.