Have the hard conversations

Last night I was at dinner with my Argentinian.

And we had a conversation after which she thanked me so profusely, you wouldn't believe it.

But the funny thing is...

It wasn't a good conversation.

It was actually a rather uncomfortable one.

One where I began it by expressing something that had been bothering me. A quirk of language and attitude that was getting under my skin, and causing me to feel like I wasn't being heard or acknowledged and just generally feel... a little off. Something, naturally, that I approached with care instead of being reckless, but nonetheless, not your typical "shove it under the rug and pretend nothing bothers you until eventually you can't hide it and it explodes" technique that far too many people rely on.

And her response blew me away.

Because by opening up, carefully, I ended up giving her the space to open up too.

Which led to her expressing something that had been bothering her, making her feel more irritable and a bit shorter in how she was expressing herself.

... thus allowing both of us to come to a better understanding of where the other was at, what's important to each of us, and how we could each act from a place of higher consciousness and honor one another better. And she couldn't have been more grateful for the opportunity to express herself, to understand me better, and to grow through that open communication.

Receiving that many "I love you's" and "I'm so grateful for how you express yourself" after a slightly uncomfortable conversation feels pretty magical.

What's funny is this is what happens literally every time we have hard conversations.

Every time we resolve some little thing with open communication.

It always brings us closer.

Helps us understand better.

Helps us grow together.

It's beautiful.

And these days I know there's nothing to be afraid of by walking towards that discomfort.

But man, I'll tell you what:

I just wasn't this guy a few short years ago.

I was so uncomfortable with being uncomfortable that I would avoid hard conversations like the plague. Even hard conversations with myself, often. I'd just pretend it was all good, hide my feelings under a mask of video games, weed, social doomscrolling, and porn. And generally just was this avoidant type that couldn't stand in the fire like I can now.

Which was destabilizing, at best, in my intimate relationships.

Developing the internal resilience to hold and stand in discomfort without flinching, without running away from it...

That's a journey that started for me by quitting porn.

A journey, and set of lessons, that continues to have a profoundly positive impact on my life every day.

When you do what it takes to quit porn and stop using escapism to cope with your life's problems, it literally ends up positively influencing the way you show up in every other area of your life too. Every relationship, every conversation... showing up as a more grounded, centered, mature version of you.

One of many great reasons to cut this crap out of your life.

For good.

And if stopping on your own hasn't been workin' out...

Well, let's stop wasting time.

I can show you how to quit in the next 60-90 days, for good, and never look back... no matter how many years you've struggled for, or how hopeless you think your case is.

Because when you make the right moves, finally... quitting is simply the natural result.

Nothing to lose by reaching out and chatting about how things could change, eh?

But I wouldn't recommend waiting much longer.

Because soon I'll be a lot less available for direct help this way, as I've got some priorities shifting to honor my mission at a higher level... which I'll share more about soon.

Anyways, this is the right time to take advantage.