Wisdom while walking

I'm writing this message while walking and thinking.

Thinking about manhood, potential, and escapism.

I used to be weak.

Truly.

I couldn't stand even a few moments of boredom or stress or loneliness without feeling like I had to launch into some sort of self-soothing behavior to make it feel better. The moment I started feeling something uncomfortable, my brain would fire impulses that told me to load up dirty tube sites, youtube, a game, grab my bowl, eat some food, or whatever else.

I couldn't just fucking sit in my feelings to save my life.

Over the past 6 or 7 years, I've become the kind of man I'm deeply proud to be. And I'm thinking more about how that came to pass. As I've always said, quitting porn was an absolutely instrumental part of that process. I could not have possibly become who I'm proud to be if I hadn't removed that ludicrously poisonous, slippery, twisted hurdle from my path.

And yet I believe there's a deeper principle that resulted in this transformation.

It's hidden in what I mentioned above.

I developed a resilience that no longer needs or wants to escape.

I learned how to face my shit head-on. How to be a true warrior in the battle against my problems, instead of a coward sitting in the back row while other people do the fighting. Created a proactive, "let's do something about this" attitude. That started with quitting porn, but then transformed into tackling every other negative behavior I had while simultaneously making positive behavior changes too.

To be here, writing this message as a man who's been sober for years from porn, drugs, video games, booze, partying, social scrolling, and all the other escapism that used to unconsciously rule my mind and lifestyle...

To be able to handle whatever comes my way without escaping from it, without falling back into old patterns, by just sitting with it and processing and then doing something about it...

That's something I'm proud of.

What I'm even more proud of is that I've made it my lifes purpose to help other men do the same thing. Which I've had the privilege of doing with over 140 different guys in the past nearly 5 years. You could be next.

If you see some part of yourself in who I used to be, know this:

I've walked through the fire. I've learned the hard lessons. And I'm happy to bring you what I've learned to shorten your process every day. All you need to do is keep reading these messages each day, and I'll keep drip-feeding lessons I learned the hard way.

But if you want my full library of expertise, and my personal guidance and accountability to help you overcome your struggles without any guesswork or wasting any more time, reach out.

Download the BeFree App today and start developing the emotional resilience that makes escape unnecessary.