Making an identity shift

Just wrapped up a few hours with one of my best friends.

And while we were at the sauna, walking, and eating, we were having a series of rather deep conversations about a topic which can be summed up as identity work.

Something every man should understand.

More specifically:

I brought up a change I'm looking to make with my business.

He challenged me and said that if that's what I want, I have to become the guy who makes it happen. Yeah, there are tactical elements to it, but there's an even bigger identity piece.

Which, frankly, made perfect sense to me.

Because I've done a lot of that kind of work already.

And what both him and I have realized is that when you're aiming to create a change in your lifestyle, habits, business, relationships... often people just try to make the change on a surface level. But they don't change who they are, how they see themselves, and their personal standards to match the behavior change they're making. So eventually they regress back to who they've always been. And what a miserable cycle that is.

The exit-hatch?

Change your very internal conception of yourself.

Increase your personal standards and shift your identity.

Become the kind of guy who just doesn't do things the way he used to anymore, and operates with a higher baseline level of integrity and self respect than he had previously.

Truthfully it's one of the biggest insights that helped me quit porn for good.

I simply, though not without effort, became the kind of guy who doesn't do that kind of shit anymore and never will again. The kind of guy who preserves that vital energy for real intimacy and his goals. Who, while not judging others for their choices, chooses to hold himself to a higher standard.

I believe this is one of the greatest tools a man can have in his toolkit.

And I've turned it into a step-by-step process that even the busiest, most overworked father can follow to get clean from porn permanently - like my father-of-four CEO client has done for nearly a year and a half already, or my other previous client M who's over 4 years and counting...

Wouldn't wait though, because soon my help will be a lot less available. More deets later.