Leadership starts with us

I feel called to a higher purpose.

One that helps men rise up and become the kind of men they're truly capable of being.

... and that starts with me.

Always has.

Always will.

I deeply believe that to be able to guide other men in the right direction, I have to be walking the walk, not just talking it.

You know, like that trope about being the example you want to see in the world.

And that bit about how it starts with me?

That's a principle that extends out into all leadership.

Being able to lead others as effectively as possible starts with leading yourself effectively, whether it's in your relationship, as a father, as a manager, or in any other position where others look to you for guidance.

Trying to lead others when you're a bit of a mess is, at best, not ideal.

And at worst, totally ineffective.

For example:

I have a client who's fairly highly ranked in his church.

And he's frequently had people come to him talking about their struggles with porn.

He's even opened up to them about his own struggles...

But since he was still using it once or more a week, despite deeply wanting to stop and trying many times over many years, he's never truly been in a position to help those men beyond providing a listening ear and some consolation, because his own house wasn't in order.

As of this writing he's over 6 weeks clean.

Not just from porn, but all forms of self-pleasure too, choosing instead to save himself for his wife (to both of their benefit - she's loving that too!)

... and it doesn't take a genius to see how much better that must feel for him while he's in front of his congregation.

He's more aligned with his values than he's ever been.

And it's a palpable shift.

One that's benefitting everyone around him who looks to him for guidance.

The cool part?

He's not even fighting himself to do it.

And not even having urges at all anymore.

He's just moving on with his life, barely even thinking about quitting anymore.

And with a couple more weeks, we'll help him fully make that transition to where he's not thinking about it basically at all and is simply living as the kind of man who doesn't do that stuff anymore.

This is what I help guys do every day.

It takes just 60 days, too.

Even for a guy like him who was in the trap for 2 decades.