I love your masculinity...

Yesterday my girl told me something that melted my heart.

"You make me feel like such a woman. I love your masculinity..."

And what an absolute fugging gift that was to hear.

Because I absolutely love that I can make her feel that way.

And I wasn't always capable of that.

I've grown into this man.

... and I firmly believe that any man can, too, when he makes the right moves.

Making a woman feel this way starts with us taking responsibility.

It is literally not possible for a woman to blossom into the deeper layers of her femininity without a strong, stable masculine presence in her life. And I kinda think this is the secret, deepest desire that many (not all) women have. To be able to trust in a man so fully, to have such faith in how he moves through this world and leads, that she can just relax and open up into that deliciously spontaneous, loving, nurturing side of her nature.

What's super interesting:

She had learned that theory.

But she'd never really experienced it before.

And heck, I've experienced some of it but also not quite to this degree.

So it's something we're both exploring and reveling in currently.

And I think that's part of the purpose of this newsletter. To bring you in on some of the deeper things I'm working on. Some of the more personal elements of growth that are currently taking place, in addition to the many things I've learned over the years that have helped me get to this point. This point where I've built the masculine frame necessary, genuinely and without any games, to allow a woman to feel this way in my presence. F**kin' awesome.

And if you want to make a woman feel this way too:

You need to take responsibility over the parts of your life where you just ain't showing up the way you should be. The parts where you're lagging, out of integrity, out of alignment with your own higher good. Shore up your defenses. Work on yourself as a man.

And the first step for me was quitting porn.

Not gonna sugarcoat it.

It's completely corrosive to the way we think about, perceive, and relate to women and it undermines our masculine energy. A combination that makes it basically impossible to be the kind of man who allows a woman to open up that way.

So if it's still part of your habits currently?

That's where you should start.

Quit that shit.

Recoup the time and energy you've been losing and pour it into your growth as a man.

There's no other higher-leverage move you could make for your relationships.