My client's brother

I met a client recently when he traveled to my city.

And he told me a pretty sad story.

He has a brother who's always been kinda troubled.

He's in his 60's, morbidly overweight, has never had a girl or boyfriend (they aren't even sure what he's into)... And my client knows that there's a subtle secret that's fundamentally connected to why his bro has always struggled in life. It was sad seeing him talk about this, because you could see the care in his eyes, but also the resignation knowing he couldn't change it...

You see, my client is completely certain that his brother has a porn addiction.

... he was even fired for having explicit content on his work PC.

Which, admittedly, isn't quite as bad as some of those videos I've seen floating around where people are on Zoom calls with their company, forget their camera is on, and start doin' the deed - to everyone's horror - and they realize a short while later the gravity of their mistake and lose their jobs that way... Saw a lot more of those videos start coming out during Covid when everyone went WFH

But still, that's pretty bad on his brother's part.

And sadly, it's more common than people think.

Sure, my client's brother is a bit of an extreme example. To have never had someone special and be in his 60's?... it's kinda tough to imagine. But on the slightly-less-extreme-but-still-bad side, porn just genuinely gets in the way of a man's intimacy.

From causing difficulties getting or keeping it up.

To creating emotional distance and difficulty connecting deeply.

That was moreso my situation. I was able to attract women. But I wasn't able to really build something deeper with them. It felt like my blessings were being blocked. So someone special would come into my life... and then they'd leave, and I was left wondering if there was something wrong with me.

And truthfully, there was.

Not necessarily with me as a person.

But with my habits, and the way those habits had programmed my brain.

Nothing fucks with our perception of women, with our ability to connect in a deep and pure and meaningful way, like pornography. And, I know, everyone who hears this idea for the firs time always thinks "nah bro, I love women, I have a healthy perception of them" but... unless they've actually quit porn for a significant length of time, guys who say this literally have no frame of reference to be able to say it accurately. And I can tell you not just from my own experience, but also my experience helping 140+ guys quit porn over the past 5 years...

I have literally not once ever seen a guy quit without also having a significant shift, for the better, in how he perceives, thinks about, and relates with women.

This habit, or the lack of it, is directly tied to the inability or ability to connect in a healthy way.