Being a man of integrity

I can't stop thinking about integrity recently.

Specifically, that there is basically zero downside to having it.

Sure, maybe you sacrifice some sort of hedonistic, unaligned pleasure.

But the way you feel about yourself makes that comparatively small sacrifice into a no-brainer. Because feeling confident in your decision making, feeling proud of who you are even behind closed doors, knowing that you're living according to good values not out of fear of retribution but rather because your own internal compass is driving good decision-making regardless of what other people think or if they ever find out your truth...

That's priceless, truly.

I say this as a man who once lacked integrity in so many ways. When I was hooked on porn, video games, social media, weed, and God knows whatever else... Obviously I was making poor decisions with those vices. But those decisions bled over into other parts of my life too, where I'd often find myself being deceptive, sneaky, or simply not showing up as my better self in favor of a lower, more pleasure-seeking version of me. Where I'd make decisions in my relationships that would sow frustration, resentment, and tension, instead of planting and cultivating the seeds of harmony, stability, and clear communication...

And I knew that wasn't how I wanted to live.

Something had to give.

And for me, that process began by quitting porn.

What most guys don't realize is that this one habit is part of the bedrock, part of the very foundation upon which so many other shitty behaviors, tendencies, thoughts, and perspectives are built. In other words, porn ends up having a far-reaching ripple effect into other parts of your life that you probably aren't nearly fully aware of. Yet that lack of awareness doesn't make it any less real.

And this is simultaneously bad and good news.

Bad because yes, it's uncomfortable to realize just how far we've fallen, slowly, slowly, over the course of many years.

But good because the opposite is true, too.

Specifically:

When you finally quit that crap, and you stay quit, you can fix that foundation. You'll naturally find yourself undoing the multitude of patterns that don't serve your better interests. Because you'll literally be healing your brain - your dopamine reward center, your Frontal Cortex which controls critical thinking and decision making, and even your emotional health will each take a drastic turn for the better.

When you cultivate sexual integrity, it'll lead to greater integrity in everything else you care about too.

In my experience of helping 140+ men quit porn in a dedicated, 1-on-1 setting over the past nearly 5 years, I have literally not once seen a guy quit without also naturally and drastically improving many other parts of his lifestyle, health, and relationships.

For one tiny example:

I have a 40 year old client currently who's about 3 weeks clean from porn for the first time since he was 12 or 13, and he said it's been way easier than he thought it would be thanks to what he's been learning during our time together. Super proud of him. And he's already making other changes because he's reclaimed so much time, energy, and potential that was being wasted. Spending more time on his hobbies, being present with his family during his children's formative years which are quickly passing never to return, and working on himself deeply. He's also naturally started dialing back some other things that weren't serving him - like some of the excessive games, scrolling, etc.

It goes far beyond porn.

But it starts with removing that particular vice because it's the biggest crack in the foundation.

He's already experiencing the way that change automatically influences everything else for the better too.

And when you're ready, I'm here to help you do it faster and easier too.

60 days from here, you could still be in roughly the same place. Or... you could have quit for good, and be naturally moving on into a different chapter where this crap is no longer plaguing you, and you're showing up as the kind of man you're proud to be.

Learn more about how I can help below, and reach out when you're ready: