You don't need to be perfect

Ever beat yourself up?

I used to. A lot.

I'd do something I wasn't proud of and then be harsher than exfoliating with coarse sandpaper on myself after. I'd wonder why I fell again, what was wrong with me, if I was doomed to just repeat the patterns of my upbringing forever, etc.

But then I realized something critical.

Something that can help anyone who's a little too hard on themselves.

And the concept is simple.

No matter what happens, even if it's something really bad or shameful that you'd rather forget... the most important thing you can do is reflect and learn from it. Dissect what happened. Why you acted the way you did. What led you to that place. How you can do better in a similar situation in the future. Adjust your plans for next time. And in that way, you can transform a moment you're not proud of into slightly greater wisdom and a higher level of awareness that'll help you make better choices in the future.

Reflect. Learn. Adjust.

This one principle has been a guiding light for me for many years, and repeating it whenever something just ain't going right has benefitted literally everything I care about.

From my relationships, to my business, to my old struggles with addiction and porn.

And, incidentally, this principle is just one of several extremely simple, useful, and effective frameworks I teach to my clients. Part of a set of tools that makes quitting porn not just possible, but natural and permanent over time.

In a few months you could have finally dropped this years-long problem and be moving on into a better, more connected way of life where you just don't do that stuff anymore.