When wifey's ready but you're "tired"...

The other day, one of my guys had a huge W.

The kind of W that probably forever changed his perspective on something absolutely fundamental to his marriage and intimacy.

And buried within his experience is a lesson so important...

It would be a disservice to everyone not to share it.

So I asked his permission, and he was cool with me showing you this thread:

... HUGE W. ... HUGE DUB, brother ... damn.

This right here is why so many men never experience the intimacy they actually crave — because they kill their own fire before the chance even arrives.

Imagine if he'd "taken care of things himself" the night before, and then just wasn't up to the task the next morning... instead of holding himself together, holding on to the charge he was feeling and reserving it for when the next opportunity presented itself... literally the very next morning.

And the thing is, across my experience working with married men...

This is one of the most common times they use porn.

When they're interrupted by the kids mid-intimacy, or when their wife rejects their advances, and they've come to the conclusion that they "deserve" or "need" that release or "are a man who has needs" and in that way, end up justifying their porn use in that moment.

When the reality is if they just waited patiently...

If they just held on to that sexual energy for another time...

They'd feel much more motivated to continue pursuing their wife over the following hours & days.

And it could literally be the case that one hour, she says no and isn't up for it, and then 2 hours later she's ready... at which point, hubby needs to be ready too, which he can't do if he's already snuffed out his own flame.

This is one of the subtle but very

real dynamics of using porn that:

1. Ends up massively harming the intimacy in a relationship.

2. Ends up massively improving the intimacy in a relationship once it's fixed.

I think we've all been in this situation before.

Heck, maybe you've been there more recently than you'd like to admit.

And if that's the case, well, like I said... been there.

Good news? You can fix it.

You just need to remove that compulsive sexuality loop & stop justifying your own vices.