How to never be a loser

The blame game is funny.

So much of the world does it.

They're mired in this victim mentality. Constantly pointing fingers at people, organizations, circumstances, and other outside forces as being "the problem." They'll blame anyone but themselves. It's the government's fault they're broke. It's taxes that prevent them from earning as much as they'd like to. It's their ex's fault that they're sad. It's their family's fault they don't have time to give to their own needs and desires. It's Big Tech and Big Porn's fault that they can't quit porn and rein in their escapism because it's made to be addictive...

And you know what?

The best excuses have some truth in them.

There genuinely may be forces working against us.

Yet, what good does it ever do to point blame towards external things?

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Maybe it temporarily makes you feel slightly better because you've mentally absolved your role and responsibility in the situation. But absolving yourself mentally doesn't change reality. When we make excuses, we aren't fooling anyone, especially not the deepest parts of our own beings.

And the blame game just gives your power away to circumstances.

There's just one way forward for the Aligned Masculine man.

And that's to accept absolute responsibility.

I love this concept... and live by it.

Taking ownership over each and every thing that's happening. The good, the bad, and the ugly. Even the things that don't feel like your fault, you intentionally *make *them your fault.

And at first, that might sound silly.

For example:

Why would you take responsibility for something that someone else did to you?

The answer goes back to what I said about giving your power away to circumstances. When you take that full sense of responsibility, you take your power back. That way, even if something terrible happens -- like losing your job, for example -- you won't be bogged down blaming your manager, your coworkers who sabotaged you, or whatever else. You'll be in the driver's seat, choosing how to respond to the situation, and figuring out how to make lemonade out of lemons and do better yourself in the future. When you own even the bad things completely, it's actually quite freeing.

Incidentally, this is a concept that transfers over into quitting porn too.

A lot of people think porn itself is the problem.

But really, it's just a symptom of a deeper set of problems.

And one of the big parts of this is that they simply haven't accepted full responsibility over it. They aren't giving it the attention it deserves. They're relying on external circumstances to try to make sure they aren't triggered unexpectedly, instead of owning and training themselves to respond in healthy ways to any circumstance. Relying on things like web blockers and accountability partners to help them block the smut, instead of learning how to rely on themselves.

But it doesn't have to be like that.

When a man does the external work of identifying his unmet needs and desires, and fixing his lifestyle accordingly so he feels more fulfilled... and he does the internal work of retraining his self-destructive thought patterns, escapist response to emotions, and learning how to take iron-clad control over his impulses... quitting porn becomes not just easier, but completely natural, with a much higher probability that he'll make the change stick for the long-haul.

Which is exactly what the Magnetic Man methodology does in just 60 days.

Don't underestimate the attention this problem deserves. Take full ownership over it. And if you've been struggling on your own, it may be wise to bring greater structure, a proven process, and reliable guidance into the equation.

Download the BeFree App today and start taking absolute responsibility for your recovery.